Why I am an Unapologetic Over Protective Momma Bear and It is Okay.

Every pregnancy is different, every mom is different, and every baby is different. Every family has their own story to tell and no one should be ashamed of their story no matter how simple, complex, happy, sad, easy, or hard your story is. “Mom” at any stage of motherhood is a hard, rewarding, great, complicated, exciting, and the most loved title you will ever hold! And, no matter if you feel you are the best mom in the world or the worst mom in the world today, remember you are always a rockstar mom!

Our Story

Our Maternity shoot at Duke Hospital by Nurse Kayla

Striker Gray was the best surprise my husband and I received. The timing was hard and the pregnancy was not easy but he is our world and we love him as deep as the oceans and beyond. I was diagnosed with Vasa Previa at week 20, landing me a VIP stay at Duke hospital at week 27. Striker arrived by emergency C section into this imperfect but beautiful world at week 31 and 6 days. Striker had a 5 week NICU stay at Duke Hospital and Vidant Medical Center where they took care of our small bundle of joy as if he was their own. Finally we got to come home. Striker came home in September, and with October being right around the corner so was flu and RSV season. I took and still am taking all precautions to keep Striker from getting sick. The timing of his release and new static’s on SIDS has turned me into the ultimate unapologetic over protective momma bear.

Over the top Momma Bear

Striker is my first, and I have heard many people say “you are over protective because he is your first baby.” Maybe that is true, only time will tell. But Striker was also a premie baby and is considered premature until age 2 when the “corrected age” finally sets in. Premature has nothing to do with a babies weight; it has everything to do with how early they where born, their lung development, and any other issues at birth. I follow doctors orders to the T; what Doctor A says goes. Striker is always in the form of safe sleep no matter if he is napping and I am awake or if it’s night time and we are all asleep. Striker is 5 months old and still wears a owlet which tells me and the hubs his oxygen level, heart rate, and if he is moving. We only take him in public for a few reasons; doctors appointments, we have no one to watch him while we are out, or we absolutely can not take being in the house any longer. I over wash and sanitize my hands and ask that all family and friends wash and sanitize before holding him (My husband can testify I am the sanitizing police when we are in public with or without Striker). Striker has only been around close family members and friends with their flu shots, and we have missed important family functions because of it. Striker does not go to daycare, gym nursery’s, or church nursery’s. Striker has only ever been around two other babies because Doctor A advises him to stay away from kids in daycare–not because daycare is bad but because daycare hold germs (again what Doc A says goes). When Striker is left with a babysitter they are given specific instructions that may sound over the top but it’s nothing I do not do myself.

I Know What You are Thinking

I know what you are thinking, whoa this momma is doing too much, and that is okay if you think that. Every momma is different, every baby is different, every doctor is different, and every parent gets different instructions from their babies physician depending on premature, term, allergies, developmental, weight, needs, genetics, and more. So am I saying if you do not do what I do with Striker you are a bad mom and you better step it up??? HECK NO!!! Like I said before you are a rock star mom and you are your babies voice and you know how to take care of that bundle of cuteness! And no one is a better mom for your baby than you !!! SO what am I saying then?

The Unapologetic Momma Bear

You take care of your baby the way you see fit, it doesn’t matter what people say, what people think, how your friends are raising their babies, if you breast or bottle, circumcision or non circumcision, keep them in a anti-germ bubble until they are 2, or you take them to Walmart the day they get out of the hospital, put them in daycare, stay home, or get a nanny, use pacifiers or don’t use pacifiers, vaccinate or not vaccinate, let them cry it out or pick them up and love them at the sight of the first tear. You do you momma, and be unapologetic about it! As long as you are following doctors orders, keeping the baby’s safety and health in mind at all times you go for it ! Be that unapologetic protector, provider, caregiver, and Momma Bear you were designed to be for your baby! You Go Girl! Your doing a great job !

To those given the Momma Bears a Run

Maybe you are a friend, relative, co-worker, or even a mom yourself and you are giving momma bears a run for their money, bossing them around, judging them, picking at what they do and don’t do, criticizing their every decision, or even given your advise where it’s not needed, stop. These mommas got it under control and if they don’t guess what they will figure it out, or ask for your help then. You have no idea why momma bears choose to do what they do with their babies. You do not go to their doctor appointments with them, you are not their to see which approach works better for their baby, you did not go throw the difficult pregnancy, you did not lay your life down for 9 months so that child could have life, you did not hold that baby in the NICU with tears in your eyes counting the days until they could come home, you are not experiencing the postpartum depression and anxiety, and ultimately you weren’t there in the bed room when the child was being created by Momma and daddy so GET OFF the mommas backs !!! These Momma bears are the voices, the advocates, and the decision makers for their babies who do not have a say, do not have a voice to speak up, and don’t have a choice. These mommas are doing their best and what they think is right. Your job is to support, support, support nothing more and nothing less.

Bowing Out Now

I have seen several post, heard from several mom friends, and experienced this myself. The fear of doing things differently than other moms, having loved ones disagree and fight with me over the way I raise my baby, dealing with the anxiety and depression after child birth. I see comments scattered all over social media and I felt it was appropriate for me to give my thoughts on this topic ! And let the moms out there know ! It’s okay to be yourself in motherhood, it’s ok to choose differently from what your friends choose or do something different than what people think is right, and it’s ok if your baby isn’t on the same schedule, milk, sleep pattern, or playing abilities as the next its all okay !!!

Be true too you Be True to Your baby ! And keep up the good work !!

Be Bold, Be Beautiful, Be Inspired, MUCH LOVE!!!

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it’s Blythe Ward: RELAUNCHED!

It’s 2019 and with the New Year I’d like to reevaluate, revamp, and redo certain areas in my life; make improvements and reflect on who I’ve been the past year and who I want to be this year.

In 2018, I began blogging about makeup and skin care which I adore. This will always be the main focus of the blog, but a lot of big things took place in my life this year which inspired me to relaunch!

I became a wife, a new pup mom, Strikers mom, and a Liberty University Alumni. I experienced not only pregnancy but a high-risk pregnancy, mom life in the NICU, and now everyday mom life. Becoming a wife and mom lead me to branch out to new topics.

It’s Blythe Ward is now a place where you can read my thoughts, and relate to everyday womanhood experiences. You can expect many more post about makeup and skin care, of course, because it is a form of art which I enjoy. You can expect to read Mom life posts that include advice, experiences, stories, tips, and sometimes much-needed mommy rants. You will hear my heartfelt experience of being a wife in today’s busy, high anxiety society. You can look forward to motivational post to encourage all women in all parts of life using quotes, scriptures, prayers, and in-depth thinking.

I am excited about taking on this new journey as a blogger. I hope that you all will join me on this amazing new ride!

Now it is your turn to make your big step toward one of your 2019 goals. As always, thank you for reading and subscribing!

Be Bold, Be Beautiful, Be Inspired, MUCH LOVE! 

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8 Resolutions to Keep for 2019

1.) Pray About Everything

Worrying about everything and depending on myself for answers, decisions, and resolutions in 2018 didn’t work out so well. SO in 2019 let’s put our fear and worry to the side and pray about everything that is on our hearts and minds !

2.) Spend More Time with Family

Family is so important and as I look back on my younger days I wish I could go back in time and spend more time with those who will be a constant in my life instead of those who are just seasonal. In 2019 make more plans with the fam such as; dinner, movie nights, game nights, and even make simple phone calls to family members!

3.) Invest in Yourself

Invest love, care, and time in yourself. Do things that make you happy ! Take time to relax with a good book, indulge in your favorite meals, get your nails and hair done, buy some new perfume, or purchase an amazing lip stick, you deserve it ! We change a lot from year to year so, Don’t be afraid to spend alone time with YOU learning the YOU of 2019!

4.) HOBBIES!!!

New Year New Hobby ! Or maybe New Year Same Hobby! Either way find a new hobby that brings you satisfaction or rekindle your love for your old hobby and dive yourself into that activity and love it and use it as your escape goat when 2019 gets tough !

5.) Be Kind and Love More

In a world full of negativity, hate, judgement, and mean gestures be the change. Be more kind this year to everyone you meet. Always put yourself in other peoples shoes or remember you do not know what they are going through! Love people through 2019 and be kind to others as you expect them to be kind to you !

6.) Work on Your Physical Health

Physical health is important after all this is the only body you get Right or Right?! Eat cleaner, take those daily walks, get a skin care routine, attend annual checkups, and avoid toxic materials. Let 2019 be the year you finally kick those health resolutions in the hiney!

7.) Take Care of Your Mental Health

Everyone has STUFF they have gone through, dealt with, and even done that has caused some anger, sadness, or mood swings. Being mentally healthy is nothing you should neglect ! Mental Health is IMPORTANT! Journal, seek counsel, find solitude, take a personal day from work, go on vacation, ask for medication, and cut those unhealthy relationships that only bring you down out of your life ! Let 2019 be the year you say “I choose to be mentally well!”

8.) Consistency

Let 2019 be the year you are consistent in everything you do and in all of your resolutions! Let this year be the year you are a consistent wife, mom, family member, friend, student, employee, house keeper, hobbiest, health nut, and kind person !

Blythe’s 2 Cents

Think back to this time last year and think about the resolutions you neglected and the list above ! If you stick to your resolutions this year and apply the 8 resolutions I have decided to add to my list as well, think about what your life will look like January 1st 2020! 2019 it’s your year!!! You ladies be the rockstar women that you are !!!! Go kick this year’s hiney!!!! And remember to be thankful and grateful for another year around the sun to enjoy this beautiful planet and all of Gods creation ! Another year is a blessing that is neglected to many enjoy 2019 and make it worth it !

From my family to yours Happy 2019!!!!

 

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10 Fun Things to do with Your Baby during Christmas

I became a mom in August and once the holidays started approaching I was so excited to do all things holiday with my beautiful baby boy . I could hardly control my excitement. When Halloween came and Striker slept through his ENTIRE first trunk or treat experience I thought OH CRAP!!!! I got home and realized he is too little to enjoy the holidays but he is here and I can’t be THAT mom that doesn’t do jack squat with their baby! SO I thought to myself even though he is too little to understand what is going on and too little to enjoy kid events that doesn’t mean me and the hubs can’t enjoy HIM during the holidays!!! After all the holiday is a time of joy, thanksgiving, and love and babies fit in all 3 of those categories. SO we started doing little things that are fun for us to enjoy with him during this holiday season and we are LOVING it !!!

1.) Dress Your Baby in Holiday Clothes

Every morning change your baby out of their PJs and put them in something festive ! Even if you do not have a ton of holiday clothes, pick holiday colors ! Dress your stud muffin or darlin Princess in red , green, gold, silver, and plaids ! Onesies with holiday graphics and quotes are also a lot of fun and aren’t bad on your wallet either !

2.) Read A Christmas Book to Your Baby

Here is an excuse to go to Target incase you are like me and you look for any and all reasons to make a daily Target run ! Take your baby to your favorite store and pick out a new Christmas book or even a few new Christmas books and read the Christmas book to them everyday. They will begin to recognize the book, the colors are wonderful, and plus it’s pretty fun to create a Santa voice !

3.) Watch Kids Christmas Movies

NO our babies do not stay up for an entire movie and NO they do not know what is being said or what is going on during the movie. BUT the music, the movement, and the colors in Christmas movies keep their eyes opened a little longer and keeps the Christmas spirit high in your house hold ! You may notice your baby is partial to one movie and it grabs their attention more than the others it’s ok to play that one for them everyday (after this Christmas season me and the hubs will know ever line from the Grinch). After all you know they are enjoying it !

4.) Christmas NickNames

Pick out a Christmas nickname for your bundle of holiday cheer and call her/him that anytime you think of it ! Pick out a name like; Reindeer, Frosty, Santa, Elf, Grinch, Rudolf, Snowball, or anything else that reminds you of Christmas! It is not only fun for you but other family members start to catch on and start calling the baby by the Christmas nickname too !

(Striker is obviously SANTA!)

5.) Baby’s 1st Christmas Ornament

Make the picking out of your baby’s first Christmas ornament special. Take the baby with you , do it on a special date night with dad, or make it a surprise for dad! Pick a specific night when it’s just you, dad, the baby, and any other family members you want there to hang the baby’s first Christmas ornament!

6.) Take Your Cutie to see Santa !!

Though your cute baby will not know who Santa really is or what is going on they will love his RED suit and love looking at something and someone new. It’s also a great time to get a family photo and a baby’s 1st photo with Santa !

7.) Go Christmas Shopping

Set aside a day just for mom, dad, and baby to go Christmas shopping for everything baby !!! This will allow for both parents to get excited for Christmas giving ! After all this is your first year in your new role as SANTA (if you choose to do Santa). It will be a fun family outing for everyone and if your lucky it will cause a great nights sleep!!!

8.) Go See a Show

Once again our bundles of Christmas cheer will not really understand what is going on BUT babies love colors and they love music !! Attend a kid friendly Christmas play, light show, Santa’s Workshop, or a church Christmas program. They will be amazed at all of the lights , colors, dancing, music, and more !

9.) A Christmas Photo Shoot

It is baby’s 1st Christmas and lets be honest did you really celebrate it if you didn’t do a Christmas photo shoot and post the photos on Social Media ???!!! You can choose to hire a professional or set up your own in home mini photo shoot !!! Whatever works best for baby and budget either way you will be glad you have some fun pictures of your beautiful baby’s first Christmas!

10.) Celebrate this season with Family

You have a new baby and every close family member is dying to get time loving on your little one ! Your baby is literally the center of attention and everyone’s world right now !!! am I right or am I right !?!? Give them as much time as you can to enjoy this present with you during the season of celebration! Allow family to join in on your baby’s first Christmas! Have family members join you at shows, come to your home for visits, make special plans to go out to eat, go see the new Grinch in theaters, make the baby’s Christmas list for them, invite them over to do gingerbread houses, or have them come help you decorate! Find a way to get your family involved for your baby’s first Christmas! Make it a Christmas worth remembering for everyone !!

Blythe’s 2 Cents!

Moments are precious and your baby’s firsts are even more precious. This Christmas will be a Christmas you will always remember so make the best of it! No matter what is going on in your life, no matter how great, bad, or chaotic life may be with a new baby make this Christmas the best you can for yourself, your baby, and your family ! Do whatever it takes to get your Christmas spirit high and have some fun. But most importantly remember the real reason for the season, the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ. If you fail to do anything else this Christmas take the time out to tell and teach your little one the real reason we celebrate not because of presents, Santa, food, or family that is just the perks of Christmas. Your little miracle may not understand now what you are saying but start their first Christmas out the right way by installing into their heart and soul the real meaning of Christmas. The real reason for Christmas is to set this time aside to recognize the birth of the one who gave it all to save us all. From my little family to yours Merry Christmas!!!!

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